The words “silent” and “victim” don’t go together!

March 6, 2014

I have enjoyed being a member of Facebook for quite a while now.  I compare it to reading a daily newspaper  that is all news about people I know!  But up until yesterday, I had just heard about people whose  accounts had been “hacked”, but now I’ve experienced it personally.   Yesterday morning when I signed into FB, someone had used the info on my FB page to create a duplicate of my  page and then “replace” me a Sandra Reed Herman!  They have then contacted people on my friends list pretending to be me.  I’m guessing at least one reason to do this is to progress to asking for money.

Anyway, I have spent the last 24 hours notifying my Facebook friends and, in turn, hearing about contacts they’ve received from the hacker posing as me.  I’ve also received alot of information from helpful friends and relatives about what to do about it.

The bottom line of all this is that I have decided that the best defense against being victimized, in this or any other way, is communication!

Soooo, I’m writing about this here today as one of the many ways I am getting the word out about guarding against this (for example, by making your privacy settings on any web-based site as exclusive as possible, while still reaching those you want to reach — as well as not allowing someone you don’t know or seems suspicious to be in contact with you).  Yes, young people, that includes those “cool” guys on the other side of the country who want to strike up a web-only-based friendship/relationship with you!

As I write this, it seems clear that this applies to many facets of or lives — don’t be a silent victim.  If you are being taken advantaged of or victimized in any way, fight back by telling someone or many people who can help you.  Not only will you received help and/or guidance in how to not be a victim, but you speaking up may encourage someone else to do the same.

“Silent” and “victim” should never go together!

ps  BTW, I especially liked what one of my FB friends (who ISN’T a police officer) messaged me about what she told “the other Sandra” when he/she contacted her on instant message:  Her message to me:

“someone messaged me telling me they got 200,000 cash from the government  did I get mine I said I was a police officer and that we will catch them  then they blocked me”

You go, girl!  With answers like that, it won’t take long for the person to realize they have hacked into a list of very smart, verbal people and will move on.

A Facebook “gotcha”

June 11, 2012

You know the advertisements you sometimes see along the right side of your Facebook page?  I’ve never paid too much attention to them, but have noticed one that says “Rachel Ray lost 47 lbs!”

Today, for I have no idea what reason, I clicked on that ad.  Hmmmm.  I immediately had that feeling you sometimes get right after you’ve done something, “I think that may have been a mistake.”

I was sooooo right.  Once I got into it, it would NOT let me get out.  And when I would try to reboot my computer to get rid of it, I couldn’t even get that done!

So I went to the tried and true, old-fashioned way … I turned it off manually!

Just a warning.  Click on the ads on Facebook at your own risk.

solutions to three little problems …

March 22, 2012

Problem:  My cereal/chips/cake mixes etc. cabinet sometimes gets too full.

Problem:  The Special K I love is pretty sweet.  Not that I’m complaining, but I like to cut calories any time I can.

Problem:  When I make chex mix, it’s impossible to get just the right amount of the three different chex cereals for the recipe so I always have leftovers.  And I am not fond enough of them to finish them off for my breakfasts.

Aha!  I’ve mixed all the chex cereals in one box and then I’m mixing a half bowl of that mix with a half bowl of my favorite Special K, for my normal bowl of cereal in the morning!

I actually like this combo, so it’s no sacrifice.

Solution:  I’m getting rid of  unused cereal in the cupboard that is just taking up space.

Solution:  My favorite cereal is just a little less sweet this way and I like the crunch the other cereal adds.

Solution:  I’ve found a way to finish off any partial boxes of less popular cereals which end up taking space in the cupboard.

May all your problems today be little ones … and may they all have simple solutions.

Happy Thursday!

a loving touch …

October 26, 2011

A friend recently mentioned that her husband was always asking her to scratch his back, and she got tired of it so she bought him a back scratcher.

It was just an off-hand comment so we really didn’t discuss it, but I’ve thought about that conversation since then and wish I had told her about my extensive experience with back scratching.

There are definitely two kinds of back scratching — when the back itches — and as a loving touch.

I don’t remember why I started this practice, but I have used back scratching as a loving touch for my family for a long time.  DD has told me that she fondly remembers me coming into her room to wake her up when she was a little girl and scratching her back as I told her it was time to get up.

And I’ve continued that practice.  If one of my loved ones is sitting near me, or a small one is on my lap, I will just give them a little back scratch.  The response is always a positive one — from a loud “ahhhhh” to just a simple sigh — and almost always followed by a thank you.  And with Hubby, unsolicited back scratches for him are a long-time habit, which he always says he appreciates.  But, by the way, if his back really itches he has a back scratcher.

So my advice is that when a loved one asks you to scratch their back, if it is because it really itches, hand them a back scratcher.  But, if it’s possible it’s really a request for a loving touch, take the time to give it.

I like it that when I am gone, one of the memories my grandchildren might have of me is as a great back scratcher!

Best Advice of the Week: Sweet Success!

August 15, 2011


When you bite the inside of your cheek or lip it really hurts, and depending on where the bite is, you may continue to re-bite it so that it won’t heal.

Well, years ago, someone told me to apply sugar to a spot like that to heal it, and it works.

I bit the inside of my lip on Friday and, as often happens, I then bit it several more times because of the swelling.  So over the weekend, three or four times a day I dampened my finger, pressed it into sugar and then put my sugared finger right on the spot and held it there for about a minute.  And today it is almost completely healed.

This works but I’m not so sure it would work if it was something like say, anchovies you had to apply.  Because I’m pretty sure I would rather have a sore mouth than have to apply anchovies to the inside of my mouth.

So I’m very thankful sugar is what works — sweet success.

Happy Monday!

Best Advice of the Week: Hole-y Water

June 25, 2011

If you know you’re going to be in a situation where it’s inconvenient to keep taking the cap off of your water bottle, you can use one of the little corn cob holders to poke several holes in the cap, so that you can drink out of the bottle without removing the cap.

Eighty degrees and sunny here today.  The kind of weather when this kind of tip might come in handy.

Happy Saturday!

Best Advice of the Week: A Gift for the Giver

June 14, 2011

Cash and gift certificates are such popular gifts these days.  They are certainly my default if I don’t know something specific the person wants.  I always kid that money is always the right size and right color!

When we, and Hubby’s siblings, were all young marrieds who had to watch our pennies, Hubby’s parents began giving each couple a check for Christmas.  They still gave our children gifts.

What a God-send those checks were.  They allowed us to make purchases that just didn’t fit into our budgets.  Which brings me to the point of this post.

When Hubby’s father died unexpectedly in January, 1985, laying on his kitchen table was the thank you note I had written him for the Christmas check and telling him that we had used it to buy a new mattress and springs.  I cannot tell you how pleased I was that he had known before he died, that we had not only appreciated the money but how we had used it.

When Gunny was a young Marine and DD was a college student, neither of them had alot of money.  So, on my birthday one year they pooled their resources and gave me a gift certificate to my favorite department store.  When I went to use it, lo and behold there was a jewelry sale!  So I bought a pair of gold earrings that at normal price would have been way more than I would have spent, but because of the sale, my gift certificate covered them.  I told them both what I had used the gift certificate for and they were pleased (and I think a little surprised) that I had been able to get something very nice with their gift.  When I wear those earrings I always remember this story.

I received a phone call last week from our oldest granddaughter, Sam.  We had sent her a card and a check for her birthday.  She not only said thanks for the money but said that she had used it to buy mulch for the flower beds she has planted in front of her house.  Later when I saw pictures of her really lovely flower beds on her Facebook page, it felt so good to know that the finishing touch, the mulch, had been our birthday gift to her.

So my experience has been that when you receive a gift of money, besides your thanks, you can give the giver a gift in return — the pleasure of knowing how their gift was used.

Apparently the U.S. Post Office has a plan to bring themselves back to prosperity one non-returnable roll of 17-cent stamps at a time!

May 3, 2011

Okay, here’s the deal.  Weekly I mail a large envelope.  It always requires over $1.00 in postage.  So a couple weeks ago I was almost out of the 17-cent stamps that could be combined with 44-cent stamps to make the different combinations of postage, so in a moment of “plan ahead” verve, I used the orange envelope the mail carriers supply to order stamps and ordered a roll of one hundred 17-cent stamps.

A few days later, I heard on the news that the first class postage was staying the same, but the price of any larger amount of postage needed was going to be increased.  So the 17-cent stamps would be replaced now by a 20-cent stamp.

Rats.  I now had one hundred stamps that didn’t work without a 3-cent stamp being added.

So I put the roll back in the mail box with three dollars and asked the mail carrier to exchange them for 20-cent’ers.  Today I got her answer — the best she could do was that she enclosed 100 3-cent stamps for my three dollars to go with the 17-cent stamps.

It was hard for me to believe that I was going to have to use allllll those 17-cent stamps, so I went to the post office to see if they could help.  The man at the desk couldn’t help.  I would have to talk to the supervisor.  I just called the supervisor.  No, they never exchange stamps.  “The board of health won’t let them.”

So now on the large envelopes I mail with lots of stamps on them, there will be even more stamps.

Maybe it’s just me, but I  feel like this just isn’t very good customer service.

Oh well.  I know the U.S. Post Office is in the red so I guess if making me keep a large number of odd postage stamps helps them, then so be it.

But I’ve learned my lesson.  “Buyer beware.”  From now on, I will limit myself to just one book of any denomination at a time.

If voting were an exclusive club, would you qualify to be a member?

May 3, 2011

What if there was suddenly a law that only those who had voted faithfully in previous elections, would now be able to vote in all future elections?  If you hadn’t been voting, how would that make you feel?  Would you feel excluded and cry “discrimination”, “unfair”, “not the American way”?

There already is a voting club.  The people who vote actually get to pick who runs our government — from township trustees to the president of the United States.

And you can be excluded — but, at least so far, the only person who can exclude you is … yourself!

Choosing who runs their government is a privilege that many people in the world wish with all their heart they had.  We are so blessed that we do have that privilege.

It’s not too late.  Join the club.  Vote every time you can, as if  your freedom depends on it.  Because it does.

Best Advice of the Week: Making “Toe Peeks” Unnecessary

April 30, 2011

Whenever I think of something I have discovered that I might share as “advice”, it always next occurs to me that maybe everyone else already knows that!  So, if you have always done this, just bear with me because I’m sometimes a slow learner and this is something I just discovered.

For me, one of the most common conditions that could interrupt a good night’s sleep was being either too hot or too cold.  I always started out with the sheet and blanket covering me.  Then, if I got too hot, I would throw the blanket off.  But, of course, pretty soon I would wake up again because now I was a little chilly, so I would pull the blanket back over me.  Sometimes, instead of this off and on routine, I would stick a foot out from under the covers and that would adjust my “thermostat” just enough.  But, of course, as soon as I would fall asleep that foot wouldn’t continue to peek out, so I was doomed to wake up again to make another adjustment.

Of course, not every night was like this, but I also probably don’t always remember when this happened because I made the adjustments while only half awake.

But I have now found a fix for this dilemma that works well for us and I thought I would share it, in case there are some who haven’t already thought of it.  My solution is that I replaced the standard weight blanket on our bed with two thin blankets.  That gives us another level of “temperature control”.  We have both found this to be a great assist to a good night’s sleep.  And if I do happen to wake up and am still a little chilly even with both blankets over me, I keep another thin blanket (this one twin-size) in the nightstand drawer so that I can throw it over me too.

Hubby is almost always too warm, so this has worked great for him too, because he can easily use just one of the blankets along with the sheet.

A good night’s sleep always make whatever the next day brings easier to handle, doesn’t it?  Happy sleeping!