Change is inevitable …

… but how we handle it is optional.

At the golf course the other day, when my friends and I approached the third tee, there was an older woman just sitting on the bench in the tee area, gazing out across the course.  When we walked up we said “Hi” and exchanged a few words with her about the weather (and that, for once, it wasn’t raining!).  She was pleasant but I thought she looked a little sad.  And I guess she felt she had to explain why she was sitting there, because she told us that her husband was playing a round and she was waiting for him.

A few holes later, I saw an older man I recognized on an adjoining fairway.  He is tall and wears a distinctive hat.  And I suddenly put two and two together.  For the four years I have played alot at this course, I have regularly seen that man and now I realized the woman we had just talked to, playing this course together.  Because they were always there, no matter what weekday I was there, I think that they must have played the course almost every day.

I don’t know why she wasn’t playing now, but it made me sad to see him playing alone, knowing that his favorite partner was back there sitting on a bench waiting for him.  But then it occurred to me to look at it another way — it’s great that he still brought her along and that she still chose to come along, even though she couldn’t play.  Good for both of them.

5 Responses to Change is inevitable …

  1. Linda says:

    It IS neat that they still “golf” together, even though one of them is unable to play. They obviously enjoy each other’s company. She loves him enough to let him play the game without her, and he loves her enough to want her with him, even if it’s just in the capacity of a spectator. Sweet.

  2. C. Beth says:

    I’m glad she could come but it must be tough not being able to play. I hope it’s a temporary thing for her.

  3. Sandra says:

    Well said, Linda.

    Beth – I agree. I hope the next time I see them they are back to their old routine. One thing I noticed is that she looks much older close up than she did when I would just see her from afar when she was playing. So, once again, I am impressed with women 15 or 20 years older than me who still play golf — they are an inspiration to me to keep playing or just generally be active.

  4. Hilary says:

    Hopefully it’s a temporary arrangement and she’ll be back … on course soon. 🙂

  5. Sandra says:

    Hilary — I hope so too.

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