Yeah, yeah, I’ve heard that before!

I read something one time that I try to remember whenever I am having a conversation with someone and they start to tell me something they’ve told me before.

What I read was especially in regard to older people and their fond memories.  The writer said something I had never thought about before … that you are giving a person a gift each time you listen to one of their stories, when it is obviously one they enjoy telling.

I don’t know about you, but for me, there has always been a trigger in my brain that is tripped every time I begin to hear something I’ve heard before.  And my automatic response is to say, “Yes, I’ve heard that.”  And that’s fine, if what the person is telling you is the weather forecast or what day school will start this year.

But I really do try to remember not to stop  someone who is obviously enjoying the re-telling of a favorite story.

And since I am 64 years old with not only a disorganized but poor memory and have written 737 posts, which aren’t terribly well-organized in my blog either, I guess I’m fortunate that I can’t hear you saying, “Yeah, yeah, I’ve heard that before!”  if I re-tell a story here.

In fact, I guess we’re both blessed that way … you can just skip that post without worrying about hurting my feelings … and I can enjoy retelling the story without ever knowing that you weren’t listening!

This post was inspired by my frequent attempts to remember if I’ve posted about a subject before … and by my own fond memories of sitting at my father’s bedside the many times he was in the hospital and listening to his great, often funny stories of his childhood.

6 Responses to Yeah, yeah, I’ve heard that before!

  1. Leigh says:

    Sandra,
    Got online and looked up your blog this morning and here I sit…over an hour later! What wonderful stories you’ve posted, and I love the recipes too. Thanks for starting my day with smiles and may you have a Blessed day! I’ll definitely be back. See you in church!

  2. Sandra says:

    Leigh — I’m so glad you found me! Thanks for the kind comments. 🙂

  3. C. Beth says:

    I love that perspective! Next week we’ll be with my hubby’s parents. His mom has dementia. I’m going to remember your wisdom so I look at our visit as an opportunity to give her lots of gifts of listening!

  4. Sandra says:

    Oh, Beth — that touches my heart. Perfect timing like that always makes me think God’s hand is involved. Maybe I was meant to give you a gentle reminder, and that makes me feel very good.

    I hope you are having a great vacation. 🙂

  5. Rita says:

    I am so glad that you shared your blog with me this morning. I will definitely remember what you wrote about giving someone a “gift” when you listen to their story over and over again. My mom is 92 and I talk with her almost every night, and it’s really hard to not interupt her when she’s repeating a story that I’ve heard LOTS of times before….but it’s going to be a whole lot easier now when I think of it as a “gift”. Thanks so much, Sandy! Also, the appetizer cheesecake recipe looks yummy!

  6. Sandra says:

    Rita — Thanks so much for visiting my blog. I’m glad if what I wrote helps you see your mom’s frequently told stories in a different light!

    And the cheesecake IS yummy — and keeps forever. I just ate the last piece of it a couple days ago and it was still great.

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