I recently read a letter in an advice column from a woman whose daughter was getting married.
When she, her daughter the bride, the mother of the groom and the bridesmaids went shopping for dresses, she found a great dress that they all agreed was a perfect choice.
But, before they left the store, the groom’s mother floored them all by buying the same dress to wear for the wedding, in a slightly different color!
The woman was asking for advice on how to handle the situation. The columnist’s advice was that she return her dress and buy a different one, and NOT to tell the groom’s mother, in case she was a serial copy-cat and would change to that one too!
Reading that story reminded me of a story I heard about a similar dilemma. Here it is:
The bride’s mother showed the bride the dress she had found for the upcoming wedding. They both loved it and thought it was perfect.
Later, the groom’s mother showed the bride the dress she had purchased for the wedding, and it was exactly the same one. The bride immediately told her that that was the same dress her mother had already purchased, so could she possibly exchange it for another. No, the groom’s mother said, she loved the dress and really didn’t want to return it. Surely, the bride’s mother wouldn’t mind exchanging hers.
The bride then went to her mother, explained the problem and asked if her mother could possibly exchange her dress, because the groom’s mother was sure she must have purchased her dress first and she really wanted to wear it to the wedding.
Well, the bride’s mother didn’t have much choice, did she? So, she said, yes, of course, she would buy another dress for the wedding. But she didn’t think she would return the dress she loved so much; she would just find somewhere other than the wedding to wear it. Oh, wait a minute, she knew the perfect place … the rehearsal dinner.
I doubt that the bride’s mother actually did that, but what a funny idea that I’m sure gave her daughter a little laugh and, along with her willingness to wear another dress, relieved some of her daughter’s pre-wedding tension.