Shall We Start a Family … or Take Judo?


jim-and-me-married-less-than-a-yearx    When we were married so young (me, 19, him, 20), a voice in our heads (it sounded alot like our parents) said to wait a couple years to start a family.  And we thought that was a pretty wise voice.

So, we used the next couple of carefree years to pursue hobbies that the voice told us we wouldn’t have time, money or energy for after we had children … like Judo classes.

  in-judo-clothesMama had us demonstrate for her and Daddy in their living room how Judo was done, but, of course, that was a little hard to do, considering Judo is all about throwing your opponent around!  So, pretty much the “entertainment” was that they got to see us in our cute (for me) and manly, of course (for him), Judo outfits — called g.e.e.s (as in McGee, not as in gee whiz).  (I kept looking at this picture and wondering what didn’t look quite right.  I think I’ve figured it out.  I think Mama’s picture caught me jumping off the floor.  It must have been one of those “Judo move” jumps!)

Didn’t we look innocent and happy?  That’s because we had no idea yet about the sleep-deprived, every-cent-spent-on-them, how-many-stitches-this-time years that lay ahead. 

But, we also didn’t know yet about the wonderful kind of love you have for your children that is like no other love in the whole world.  I thought Hubby described it well when he told teen-aged Gunny one time, “You are the only other ‘man’ in the whole world, who I pray to be a better man than I am.”

We’re glad we waited those couple years before we had children, so that we could grow up a little first.  But when the time came, raising children was the best experience we ever had … muucccch better than Judo.

17 Responses to Shall We Start a Family … or Take Judo?

  1. Beth says:

    Ha–love the photo. Either you’re jumping or your parents had some MAJOR foundation issues. 😉

    Hubby’s comment to Gunny made me cry.

  2. Cathy says:

    Love the post and the pics! We also waited a couple of years to have kids, but those aren’t the years I remember about our early marriage – the memories come with the kids, huh?

  3. Hilary says:

    What a beautiful sentiment your wonderful Hubby expressed to your son. That’s all it ever comes down to.. wanting better for them than we want for ourselves.

    Great photos and a lovely glimpse into your past. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  4. Pamela says:

    and perhaps you used those judo moves over the years on those kids ? ha ha. I could have used it a few times.

    A poignant look into your husbands heart ….

  5. Sandra says:

    Beth — I wondered if that comment Hubby made would touch others too, or if it just touched me because it was between two people I love!

    The “foundation” idea is what made me start looking at the picture closer, because it looked like I was standing on a hill! 🙂

    Cathy — Yes, the “kid” memories are the best, no doubt about it.

    Hilary — You express it so well. Thank YOU.

    Pamela — “a poignant look into your husbands heart” I love that. Thank you.

  6. Very sweet, Sandra. There’s nothing quite like the joy of raising kids. The richness of the experience kind of knocks you off your feet, doesn’t it? Thanks for the poignant reminder 🙂

  7. Sandra says:

    Thank you Lynn for enjoying those kind of memories with me.

  8. new diva says:

    Love the pictures and the sentiment of this post. Children truly are life’s greatest gift!

  9. TZ says:

    Isn’t that the truth…nothing can prepare you for that love you feel for your children…it IS better the Judo! Now that the kiddos are out of the house any chance of you and hubby taking up Judo again?

  10. Sandra says:

    Ha Ha, TZ! Did I mention I’m glad you’re back? I HAVE missed your wit. Nooooo, no plan to return to Judo! 🙂

  11. Dan says:

    Awwwwwwwwwwww….That is beautiful….I remember talking to DH about starting a family…..
    Thanks for the memories….xoxox

  12. Beautiful. And the pics are sweet.

  13. Sandra says:

    Danielle — Always better when there is a little discussion about it, and not just an oops! Although, as I say that, I was an “oops” and I think that worked out GREAT!! 🙂

    HPKT — Thanks for enjoying hearing what I enjoyed telling! 🙂

  14. mommybee says:

    I loved this post!
    My husband and I were married at the same age (me 19, him 20). I was pregnant within the first year of our marriage- so no Judo lessons for us! haha. Thank you so much for this post, it’s very sweet.

  15. Sandra says:

    mommybee — That was awfully young, wasn’t it? But, it all worked out well, and it means we’ve had many happy years together (44 in June!) I’m glad you enjoyed it!

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