When DD was playing high school sports, her friends and teammates, the “twin towers” — 6′ and 6’1″ twin girls who were excellent athletes — were pretty sure bets to get lots of scholarship offers, even before the volleyball and basketball teams won state championships. But, the twins’ dad was very focused on making sure they got the best offers possible, so he encouraged them to play every sport possible, and to maximize their stats in whatever the current sport.
One night after a basketball game, DD said to her dad, “Mr. G. is paying the twins a dollar for every basket they score. (The twins and DD were the leading scorers.) Do you think I could get the same deal?”
Hubby said, “I don’t know. You’ll have to ask Mr. G.”
We laughed, but we didn’t pay her for every basket she scored. And, she did get an athletic college scholarship.
DD told us one time that one of her biggest motivations for athletic success was her fear of losing. It must have worked, because she was pretty successful. But, given that as a motivation, I’m not sure I would have stuck with it!
I guess it’s no surprise that different children are motivated by different “carrots.” If there was just one thing that was a guaranteed motivator, someone would bottle it and make buckets of money. And I know DD was blessed with many great experiences and relationships with teammates, coaches and other parents through her sports, despite any personal athletic success.
If your children are athletes, may they (and you) enjoy the experiences and successes they may have because of their God-given talents, whether they result in scholarships or not.