At a gathering the other night a group of women were talking about a recent death, and the obituary in the newspaper. I said I really liked the picture that was included — it was probablay 10-15 years old and showed the guy at the peak of health. I had only known him the last few years when he was in poor health, so I felt it was nice to see “the real him.”
This started a debate about pictures in obituaries. I was really surprised that my opinion was wayyyy outnumbered. No one else seemed to enjoy the pictures that are now included with obituaries. But, they were especially critical of the ones that are obviously from long ago. My defense of that is, if the person had been sick for a long time, the family probably enjoyed remembering (and wanted those reading the obituary to remember also) her/him when they were young and obviously healthy, rather than one taken in recent years that might, for instance, show them with their oxygen tubes.
So, if everyone feels as this group did, maybe popular opinion will make the pictures go away. But I, for one, enjoy them. It also allows you to see a picture and think, “Hey, that’s that waitress or sales clerk that I always liked dealing with!” even though you didn’t know her name.
Just shows how the same subject can have such widely different opinions! What do you think?
(I will be interested to read what you think when I return from vacation next Saturday. See ya!)