We will occasionally have a server in a restaurant (usually a female) who will call us by “terms of endearment” — like sweety, dear, darlin’ and, most frequently, honey.
Tell me truthfully. Is there someone reading this post who finds this charming? If you do, I would appreciate hearing what good feeling this evokes. I mean that seriously, because I am always put off by it, but maybe that’s not the case with everyone, and I really would like to see it more positively.
As I’m typing this, I think I’ve just had an “ah ha” moment. Maybe it is about making you really look at them and see them as a person rather than just the arm that extends in front of you to place a plate, refill a glass or leave a check. I do know that when this happens I DO look at the person’s face — it DOES get my attention. Maybe I’ve answered my own question of, “Why the heck would a waitress think she should speak to customers with such familiarity?” Maybe the thinking is that if you see the waitress as a person, you will feel more of a “connection,” and consequently tip more generously.
Unless someone can give me a good reason to think otherwise, my current thinking is — I wish they would just concentrate on giving good service and save the “honey” for the biscuits!